Are you micro-managing the universe?
Afternoon Carousellers,
I saw last night that Series 6 of Black Mirror is out tomorrow and Annie Murphy is in it! And it inspired me to write to you about GIVING UP (in a good way.)
I love the story about Annie Murphy (who plays Alexis in Schitt’s Creek). A few years ago she was a struggling actor with $3 to her name. She hadn’t worked in close to two years. Then her house burned down and she lost all her belongings. She says she remembers sitting on the beach thinking ‘that’s it, I’m giving up acting, I can’t do this anymore’. Then two days later got the call for Schitt’s Creek.
I’ve heard so many stories like this. The total surrender followed by the arrival of exactly what you want. Properly deleting dating apps and then meeting someone the next day. Letting go of a piece of work and then getting a call to say you’ve been awarded the project. Finally accepting you won’t hear from a friend again and then receiving a text.
I wonder if this happens because we’ve finally stopped trying to control the situation?
I don’t know about you, but the more someone reminds me to do something the less likely I am to do it!
We ask someone to do something eg. ‘please take the rubbish out’ and then we keep reminding them, get disappointed when it doesn’t happen, feel like the bins are NEVER going to be taken out so I’ll just bloody take charge and do it myself and gaaaaawd why am I so tired?!
And think on the receiving end when someone keeps reminding you to do something, and you’re onto it! It’s in motion! And it can feel like you’re not trusted or that you’re being too slow. And to be honest, with all the nagging and reminding it now feels like a a bit of a thankless task. So maybe, I’ll just not do it - they’re pissed off anyway.
And I wonder if this is what happens with the universe? (Please replace this word with anything that serves you - life, spirit, future self…)
We express a desire eg. I want to meet a partner, don’t feel the results are quick enough and then are frustrated and disappointed with the whole thing. Meanwhile Universe over here is off trying to make it happen, but doesn’t feel very encouraged or trusted by us AT ALL. So maybe is just going to focus on someone else for a bit who actually APPRECIATES them (sob!)
Are we micromanaging the universe sometimes? Is the universe working away at our requests only for us to be constantly checking and disappointed in the progress?
What would it be like to be grateful for the progress there has been?
To trust in the process?
To give up control?
We can’t just sit back and do nothing. We have to give SOME direction and guidance. But then we have to let go and trust the process (and the timing.)
And maybe even, like Annie, step away from that request altogether.
Damn, this stuff is hard! But I quite like the idea of trusting a little more.
Wishing you all a gorgeous day,
Sarah