Learning the art of being picky
Hi Carousellers,
I hope you are enjoying this moody autumnal Friday.
Recently I've been practising the art of being picky.
I remember years ago hearing that whenever we're making a decision we can choose for things to be cheaper, better quality or quicker. We can have two of these, but never all three.
I notice that I'm often driven by things happening quickly: I hate shopping around and spending time deliberating. This often means I don't choose the best quality, or the cheapest thing, but it does mean I get things sorted without too much fuss.
Recently I've been trying to change that habit. I've been asking myself 'is this REALLY want I want, or am I trying to get through the discomfort of this taking more time than I'd like?'
I've been checking out some co-working spaces recently and none have been quite right. Old me might have signed up thinking 'it's FINE, it's good enough', but new me is asking, 'does this space truly support you? Is it really what you want to spend money on?' The answer in both has been a reluctant 'no', because I know it will take more time, but I also know it will be worth it.
In dating, I've met people who are great, and I could keep spending time with them, but something has also not been aligned. It could be easier to keep going with something 'good enough' than go through the ordeal of starting again, and yet I also feel myself growing with every 'no' and getting closer to a HELL YEAH.
I went to get my bike fixed today and was told it was not worth saving :( They had a second hand one, which was quite nice, but expensive. I took it for a spin, it was great, but I didn't love it. Again, I wanted to just buy it to avoid the boredom of the continued search, but my gut said 'this isn't the one.'
This is a new practice for me - waiting a little longer before saying yes. Discernment. High expectations. Believing I am worthy of the time to find something that feels right.
There are times when it's good to be less picky - to get stuff out into the world without overthinking it - but with big choices like where I spend my time and who I spend my time with, I am going to try and be a bit pickier.
This newsletter was written today during Robbie Swale's 12 Minute Method*. I set a timer for 12 minutes and wrote what was on my mind. I'm sending it as it is. (This is one of those NOT picky moments!)
Today I ask you, what is your relationship with being picky?
Where in your life do you want to be pickier?
Where do you need to be less picky?
Thank you for reading this Friday carousel.
Sarah x
ps. I've now made my Power of Uke mailchimp newsletter into a place where you can find out all the things I'm up to. You can read the latest one here: https://mailchi.mp/f27dc5cd5a55/finally-the-newsletter-that-truly-embraces-portfolio-living?e=e51b2f4503
*Tinyletter is not letting my add links today but here you go: https://www.robbieswale.com/about-the-12-minute-method